Surprisingly enough, the answer to this question is not a simple as it seems. Some courts believe the ring is clearly the donee's as it was a gift, others believe that because the ring was given conditionally, it is the property of the donor until the marriage occurs.
Ring as a Promise
Unfortunately, a majority of courts find that the gift of an engagement ring contains an implied condition of marriage. That means that until the marriage occurs, the gift isn't final. The courts that view giving of engagement rings this way indicate that only upon the exchange of wedding vows does the donee get to keep the ring. Up until that point the ring is only the donee's on the condition of marriage.
Courts that follow this line of reasoning treat the ring more as a term in an oral contract than as a true gift: the ring becomes the donee’s property on the condition that the marriage is completed. The ring is thus a promise that the donee will marry the donor. If the promise is broken by either party, than the ring remains the property of the donor, regardless of the reasons the promise was broken.
Ring as a Gift
Personal property is considered a gift when three conditions are met:
A few states believe that once the donor gives the ring to the donee, the ring is a gift and the ring becomes the donee’s property, regardless of what happens later. These states, known as no-fault based states, use the same logic found in no-fault divorce; they do not care who was responsible for the end of the engagement and believe the ring always belongs to the donee after the ring is given.
Ring as an Implied Gift
Some courts follow a middle ground between the two extreme positions by determining which party broke the engagement. These states, known as fault-based states, find it unfair to the donee if the donor breaks off the engagement because the donee was preparing themselves for marriage. The national majority approach is that a donor who breaks off the engagement for a reason that has nothing to do with the donee's behavior cannot recover the ring. Other courts find it unfair for the donee to keep the ring if the donee's wrongdoing or unfaithfulness was the cause of the break up.
Although engagement ring disputes are typically based on fault or no fault, there are a few other factors which may sway a court’s decision:
As state law regarding the return of the ring is uneven at best it is only practical to contact an attorney regarding this issue. Engagement gifts are typically one of the most expensive gifts that can be exchanged between a couple, and if you really interested in recovering this gift from a person who is less than willing to give it back you may need a family lawyer.
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