For many parents, child custody is an important and emotionally charged issue. Before you meet with a child custody lawyer, you should prepare for your appointment. In order to understand your claim, the lawyer will need accurate and detailed information. While every lawyer has his or her own interview process, this is a list of common questions.
Typically, married parents have equal custody of their children. However, different rules may apply if parents are unmarried. In many states, an unmarried mother receives primary custody of the child. An unmarried father typically must establish paternity and request custody or parenting time. Paternity may be established in a variety of ways, including DNA testing and acknowledgement on a child’s birth certificate.
Most states have specific rules about changing a child custody order. Typically, you must show a significant change in circumstances. A change in circumstances may include evidence that:
Some states also impose waiting periods before the court will change a custody order. If you have an existing custody order or parenting plan, the lawyer will need to review the document. And, if there is evidence that the current order is no longer appropriate, bring this evidence with you.
If your separation is amicable, you may not need to file a child custody action against your former spouse or partner. Many custody disputes can be resolved without litigation. Alternative dispute resolution (ADR), including mediation, can be helpful when parents cannot immediately agree on a parenting plan. During mediation, a neutral third party helps parents discuss and negotiate custody—with the goal of completing a voluntary parenting plan. In some states, family mediation may be mandatory.
However, negotiation and mediation are not always possible in a custody dispute. For example, a history of significant spousal or domestic abuse may make ADR impractical and unproductive. In order to tailor your legal strategy, the lawyer will need to understand how willing you are to collaborate and cooperate with your child’s other parent.
When parents cannot agree on custody, the courts must determine what arrangement is in the child’s best interests. This assessment typically involves a series of factors, including:
The lawyer will need a detailed and accurate understanding of these (and other) factors.
Again, it is important to bring any evidence you have to your appointment. This information will help the lawyer evaluate your claim and provide accurate advice. The lawyer may want to see:
This information will help the lawyer evaluate and understand your child custody dispute.
However, most child custody lawyers will not want to meet with your child at the first appointment. You will be discussing a lot of sensitive information about yourself and the child’s other parent. Typically, it is inappropriate to involve your child in these discussions. If you want or need to bring your child with you, please discuss this with the lawyer in advance.
Hiring a lawyer is an important decision. For many parents, child custody claims are too complicated to handle alone. A local child custody lawyer can help you understand and protect your parental rights.
Last Modified: 05-01-2018 01:15 AM PDTLaw Library Disclaimer
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